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Purushottam Maas or Adhik Maas

Purushottam Maas or Adhik Maas is an extra month in the Hindu calendar that is inserted to keep the lunar and solar calendars aligned. Purushottam is an epithet of Vishnu, to whom the month is dedicated.

Generally, we know that there are 12 months in a Calendar year. Hindu calendar also has 12 months in a year, but each month is not of 30 or 31 days as we see in English Calendar.

This differentiation is because Hindu Calendar follow Moon’s Movement whereas English Calendar is made based on Sun’s Movement.

So as per Moon calendar, a month is exactly 29 days 10 hours and 48 minutes to sometimes 29 days 12 hours 44 minutes.

On an average a month stays for 29.5 days. 29.5 days multiplied by 12 months gives us the total days as 354 days.

The difference then between Lunar Calendar 354 days and Solar Calendar 365 days and 6 hours is 11 days 6 hours.

That difference must be corrected. Every third year this shortfall gets corrected as an extra month and that is called as Adhika Maasam.

Adhika Maasam comes in four combinations not exceeding three years.

1. 2 years and 4 months

2. 2 years and 9 months

3. 2 years and 10 months

4. 2 years and 11 months

In 2015, Adhik Mass was on 17th June to 16th July 2015 (This Adhika masa came in 2 years and 10 months)

In 2018, Adhik Mass was on 16th May to 13th June 2018 (This Adhika masa came in 2 years and 11 months)

In 2020, 17th Sept to 16th Oct 2020 (This Adhika masa came in 2 years and 4 months)

So,

Next Adhik Mass, will come In 2023, 17th June to 16th July 2023 (after 2 years and 9 months)

Tappers & Listeners Syndrome

Message with Learning for Life !!!

In 1990, a psychology student at Stanford University, conducted an interesting experiment. It was referred to as the "Tappers & Listeners" experiment. The rest of the world first heard of it when the authors Chip and Dan Heath started talking about in public.

For her PhD dissertation, Elizabeth Newton invited her peers in college to participate in the study. Each student was assigned one of two roles: 'Tapper' or 'Listener'. The tappers were given a list of twenty-five popular tunes, such as "Happy Birthday to you" and "Jingle Bells". They had to tap out the tune with their fingers on a table, and the listeners had to guess the song. As you might have guessed, this was not an easy task at all. Of the hundred and twenty times a tune was tapped, the listener could guess the tune correctly only thrice. That's a success rate of about 2.5%.

But here's the interesting bit. Before the tappers began to tap the tune, Elizabeth asked them to predict the probability of the listeners being able to guess the song correctly. The tappers predicted a 50% chance that they would be able to get the listeners to guess the tune correctly.

So while they thought that they would be able to get the listeners to guess correctly one out of two times, the reality was that listeners could guess the tune only once in forty attempts. How come?

Well, here's what was happening. As the tapper taps the tune, he can hear the song playing in his head His fingers seem to be tapping the tune in perfect sync with what's playing in his head. And he just can't understand what the listener is not able to pick up such a simple tune!

And what about the listener? Well, she doesn't have the tune playing in her head, without which, she has no idea what's happening. She tries as hard as can to make sense of the bizarre Morse-code like tapping that she hears. Alas, to no avail. This results in utter frustration.

As leaders, we often fall into the tapper's trap! We give instructions which seem very clear in our heads but our colleagues may have no idea what we want them to do. Has it happened to you that you called a young trainee to do some work, and when she got back the next day - having slogged all night to finish the task - you were disappointed? She hadn't quiet done what you were looking for. You probably felt a bit frustrated too, that she 'didn't quiet get it.'

The next time that happens, do remember that the problem is with the tapper - not the listener. Because you knew what you wanted to get done, you assumed it was clear to the young trainee too. That is seldom the case.

The next time you are communicating with a colleague, think about the "Tappers & Listeners" experiment. And remember, what's obvious to you may not be so to the other person. When the listener says he doesn't get it, that's not a signal to get irritated. It's probably telling you to put yourself in the other person's shoes, and try and be more explicit. Don't assume that knowledge levels are the same.

One more thing,

Tapping harder or Tapping repeatedly won't make it any easier for the Listener!

Keep Smiling

:-) :-)

Ritual of Radiant Living

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*Extract from the Book "The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari" by Robin Sharma

The Value of Human Life

A man went to God and asked, "What's the value of life?"

God gave him one stone and said, "Find out the value of this stone, but don't sell it."

The man took the stone to an Orange Seller and asked him what it's cost would be.

The Orange Seller saw the shiny stone and said, "You can take 12 oranges and give me the stone."

The man apologized and said that the God has asked him not to sell it.

He went ahead and found a vegetable seller. "What could be the value of this stone?" he asked the vegetable seller. The seller saw the shiny stone and said, "Take one sack of potatoes and give me the stone."

The man again apologized and said he can't sell it.

Further ahead, he went into a jewellery shop and asked the value of the stone.

The jeweller saw the stone under a lens and said, "I'll give you 50 Lakhs for this stone." When the man shook his head, the jeweller said, "Alright, alright, take 2 crores, but give me the stone."

The man explained that he can't sell the stone. Further ahead, the man saw a precious stone's shop and asked the seller the value of this stone.

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Interview for the Post of Manager

My request is that pls read this and get your childrens also to read it...,,

One young man went to apply for a managerial position in a big company.
He passed the initial interview, and now would meet the director for the final interview.
The director discovered from his CV that the youth's academic achievements were excellent.

He asked, Did you obtain any scholarships in school...?
the youth answered "NO".

Who paid for your school fees...?
" Parents ", he replied.

"Where did they work......?"

"They worked as clothes cleaner.”

The director requested the youth to show his hands.
The youth showed a pair of hands that were smooth and perfect.

"Have you ever helped your parents wash the clothes ?"

"Never, my parents always wanted me to study and read more books.
Besides, my parents can wash clothes faster than me.

The director said, "I have a request.

When you go home today, go and clean your parents hands, and then see me tomorrow morning.

The youth felt dejected.
When he went back home, he asked his parents to let him clean their hands.
His parents felt strange, happy but with mixed feelings, They showed their hands to their son.

The youth cleaned their hands slowly.
His tear fell as he did that.
It was the first time he noticed that his parents hands were so wrinkled, and there were so many bruises in their hands.

Some bruises were so painful that they winced when he touched it.

This was the first time the youth realized that it was this pair of hands that washed the clothes everyday to enable him to pay the school fees.
The bruises in the hands were the price that the parents had to pay for his education, his school activities and his future.

After cleaning his parents hands, the youth quietly washed all the remaining clothes for them.
That night, parents and son talked for a very long time.

Next morning, the youth went to the director's office.

The Director noticed the tears in the youth's eyes, when he asked:

"Can you tell me what have you done and learned yesterday in your house....?"

The youth answered,
I cleaned my parents hand, and also finished cleaning all the remaining clothes'

“I now know what appreciation is. Without my parents, I would not be who I am today...

By helping my parents, only now do I realize how difficult and tough it is to get something done on your own And I have come to appreciate the importance and value of helping one’s family.

The director said, "This is what I am looking for in a Manager."

I want to recruit a person who can appreciate the help of others, A person who knows the sufferings of others to get things done, and a person who would not put money as his only goal in life.”

“You are hired.”

Moral:
A child, who has been protected and habitually given whatever he wanted, would develop an "entitlement mentality" and would always put himself first.

He would be ignorant of his parent's efforts.

If we are this kind of protective parents, are we really showing love or are we destroying our children instead...?

You can let your child live in a big house, eat a good meal, learn piano, watch on a big screen TV.
But when you are cutting grass, please let them experience it.

After a meal, let them wash their plates and bowls together with their brothers and sisters.
It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love them in a right way.

You want them to understand, no matter how rich their parents are, one day their hair will grow grey, same as the parent of that young person.

The most important thing is your child learns how to appreciate the effort and experience the difficulty and learns the ability to work with others to get things done...,,

Try to share this story to as many as possible...This may change somebody's fate.

This will also change someone's attitude.

Blessings... Really touched

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THE COCKROACH THEORY

Response Vs Reaction

At a restaurant, a cockroach suddenly flew from somewhere and sat on a lady. She started screaming out of fear. With a panic stricken face and trembling voice, she started jumping, with both her hands desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach.

Her reaction was contagious, as everyone in her group also got panicky.

The lady finally managed to push the cockroach away

but...it landed on another lady in the group.

Now, it was the turn of the other lady in the group to continue the drama.

The waiter rushed forward to their rescue.

In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter.

The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behaviour of the cockroach on his shirt.

When he was confident enough, he grabbed it with his fingers and threw it out of the restaurant.

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A Cocoon of a Butterfly

A man found a cocoon of a butterfly. One day a small opening appeared. He sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to force its body through that little hole. Then it seemed to stop making any progress. It appeared as if it had gotten as far as it could, and it could go no further.

So the man decided to help the butterfly. He took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon. The butterfly then emerged easily. But it had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings.

The man continued to watch the butterfly because he expected that, at any moment, the wings would enlarge and expand to be able to support the body, which would contract in time.
Neither happened! In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and shriveled wings. It never was able to fly.

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THE BOILING FROG SYNDROME

Human Beings and frogs are the two creatures in nature who have tremendous power to adjust.

Put a frog in a vessel of water and start heating the water.
As the temperature of the water rises, the frog is able to adjust its body temperature accordingly.

The frog keeps on adjusting with increase in temperature.
Just when the water is about to reach boiling point, the frog is not able to adjust anymore.
At that point the frog decides to jump out.
The frog tries to jump but is unable to do so, because it lost all its strength in adjusting with the water temperature.

Very soon the frog dies.

What killed the frog?

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BLUEiCYMiND Life Quotes

To Change The World Around You, First Change YourSelf

To Change The World Around You, First Change YourSelf

One night a father was relaxing with his newspaper after a long day at the office. His son, who wanted to play, kept on pestering him. Finally, fed up by his child, the father ripped out a picture of the globe that was in the paper and tore it into a infinite tiny pieces.

'Here son, go ahead and try to put this back together.' he said, hoping that this would keep the little boy busy long enough for him to finish reading his paper.

To Change The World Around You, First Change YourSelf

mayonnaise jar

*MUST READ*

When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, When 24 hours in a day is not enough, When you got completely saturated with your life...

Read this beautiful demonstration of Philosophy Professor

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him.

When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and started to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured it into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full.

The students responded With an unanimous ‘yes.’

The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.

‘Now,’ said the professor, as the laughter subsided,

‘I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life.

The golf balls are the important things – God, family, children, health, friends, and favorite passions Things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.

The pebbles are the things that matter like your job, house, and car.

The sand is everything else — The small stuff.

Now ‘If you put the sand into the jar first,’ he continued, ‘there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls.

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